Common phrases mentally resilient people never use [Video]

Everyone needs a bit of resilience at some point in their lives.

You might need to bounce back from a tough breakup, learn a seemingly impossible skill at work or recover from a surgery. No matter the form, adversity requires mental toughness and self-reassurance to overcome it successfully.

Some people are innately resilient. Others may need to practice the soft skill. Here are three phrases that mentally resilient people never use, according to psychologists and executive coaches:

For many people, the go-to response for handling difficult, stressful or uncomfortable situations is to not handle them at all. They give into their “fight-or-flight” response, which may cause them to get defensive or tell themselves, “I can’t deal with this.”

Mentally resilient people take a different approach, according to Brooklyn, New York-based executive coach Jason Shen. Instead of closing themselves off or running away from their problems, they lean on their community …